Awwwwwwww. Now isn’t this a lovely topic? We spend so much of our time being bombarded with bad news, it’s nice to be reminded every once in a while about all the great stuff out there. Take a look at the AskReddit responses below from people who talk about the exact moment they knew their spouse was THE ONE.
Do you remember your moment?
1. Cleaning=Love
I asked my SO this once. His response: “Second date. I just knew you were the one for me the moment I picked you up that day. And then drinking beer and hanging out with you on the patio… I just loved hanging out with you from then on. You?”
Me:”That time you cleaned my fridge.”
Him:”…Seriously?”
Me:”Yup- it was so gross and you just handed me a beer and said ‘Don’t worry honey, I’ll take care of it. You just go sit down and have a beer.’ Right then, I remember thinking OH MY GOD, I LOVE THIS MAN.”
When we were first dating, a leak from my freezer kept dripping water to the bottom of my fridge, under the crisper drawers, unbeknownst to me. Once the drawers were removed, there was a swamp of about 6 kinds of mold. It was absolutely disgusting. Like, picture Dagobah made of mold, hiding in your fridge and not realizing it was there because it’s hidden under a piece of plastic.
I had come back from a run and when I went to get an apple, something caught my eye when I opened the fruit drawer: there was a light bit of mold on the drawer in my fridge. Pulled out the drawer and saw the disaster. I was tired and sweaty from my run, and the mold just freaked me out. He just told me to relax and got to work. Loved him ever since.
2. “Crappy pink car”
Not married yet… But I will be in about 7 hours.
I knew I’d marry her on our first date. I picked her up in a crappy pink car that was leaking on her (leak in window seal). I took us to the ferry terminal… And got us on the wrong ferry. Instead of a 30 minute ride that got us to our destination for a 7pm dinner reservation, it was an hour long ride followed by a 45 minute drive that finally got us to dinner around 9:00. Oh – and she gets seasick. Upon getting to dinner, the waiter wished us happy anniversary. She could barely eat anything due to the nausea. I hadn’t paid attention to the return ferry schedule, so when we got back to the terminal around 10:15, we had an hour wait until the next ferry (previous one had left at 10:10).
So why did I know I’d marry her? She was incredibly kind and supportive through it all. She saw me getting visibly flustered on the ferry and reassured me that it was OK. When we got off the ferry, she helped me navigate the hour drive to dinner. At dinner, she was incredibly polite to the waiter. Good conversation was held throughout the whole ordeal.
When I finally dropped her off at home, she made it clear that she’d love to do something again.
At that moment, I knew that I wanted her by my side for all of life’s adventures. I almost Mosby’d it, but managed to catch myself.
I’m so incredibly happy to be marrying her this afternoon, and am on Reddit this early (630 pacific) because I’m too excited to sleep.
3. Big Foot
We traveled to California and drove aimlessly through heavy woods. We passed a Big Foot Museum. My SO told the shopkeeper a story about seeing a big foot as a kid, which lowered his guard, because I’m sure that guy gets made fun of, and we heard some fantastic stories about local big foot sightings. That was cool.
4. Show and Tell
When I realized that every time I found something I liked: a movie, a TV series, a book, a song or whatever, the first thing I would think is that I couldn’t wait to show her. It was like I couldn’t fully enjoy something until I shared it with her.
And pretty much 9 times out of 10 she loved all the same things. Still working on Monty Python though…
5. True Love
About a month or so into our dating relationship, I went out one random work night with a bunch of friends to grab drinks. After about 20 shots of whiskey, I jumped into a cab and ended up going to her apartment at around 5:00 in the morning. She buzzed me in, put me to bed, then left for work just 3 hours later.
When I woke up, I obviously had no recollection of the previous nights’ activities, and I had no idea how or why I ended up at my girlfriend’s apartment. But when I sat up from her bed, I noticed a tall glass of water on the night stand along with two aspirins and a gatordate. There was also a trash bin with kleenex tissues in case I needed to throw up.
The funny thing is, my girlfriend was not (and still is not) much of a drinker at all, and none of her friends are big time drinkers either. Since this was her first ever experience dealing with a black-out-drunk experience, she didn’t know how to handle the situation, so she googled “how to treat a hangover” and followed the internet’s advice. She could have easily been pissed that I woke her up at 5am on work night and left me to figure shit out on my own, but the fact that she went out of her way to find out how to make me feel as little pain as possible was truly a sign that she was the one.
And if that wasn’t enough, she also wrote an email on my behalf to my boss explaining how “sick” I was from a cold that I caught and further explained that I would not be making it into the office.
Half a year later, I popped the question and proposed. She said yes, and now we’re just a few months away from being married.
6. More like Old Bae, amiright?
She nonchalantly took a can of Old Bay out of her purse to season her fries while we were sitting in the food court of our college student union. I asked, “do you always carry Old Bay with you?” “Not always,” she replied.
7. Animal Lover
One day while mowing the grass he came into the house looking very distraught and tortured. This is very unusual for him because he’s pretty stoic and I think I’ve only seen him cry twice in 9 years. I asked what was wrong and he burst out with, “I accidentally ran over a frog that was trying to hop out the way of the lawnmower!!” He was honestly really upset at himself for it and then muttered something like, “Poor frog, just going about its day, completely unaware” and walk back outside all sad-like.
I don’t think it’s funny that the poor frog got ran over but I did have to try not to laugh in that instance for some reason. I knew then that I wanted to marry him.
8. Impulse
I used to work with mine 4 1/2 years ago. We were good friends. Kept in touch once or twice a year after I left early on.
A year and a half ago he sent me some beer for Xmas (home brewer) so I texted him thanks, which turned into a “what are you doing for Xmas?” convo. Turns out he was going on one of his annual long motorcycle trips but his friend backed out, so he was going to ride down to cabo and back over 10 days. I asked if he was going alone and he said he was- and asked if I wanted to go! Impulsively I said yes.
Best decision I ever made. I rode 2200 miles round trip to cabo on the back of his motorcycle. 4 days in it got romantic. Day 5 I knew I loved him and he was the one!
We got engaged 4 months later, married 3.5 months after that and we have our first baby on board before our 1st anniversary! Friends are the best lovers 🙂
9. Love at First Sight
The first time I saw her, seriously. She was new to our office (Air Force) and as I was walking out of an office her sponsor was introducing her to everyone. I said “hi” and walked back to my desk. I IMMEDIATELY told my supervisor “I am going to marry her”. True story. About 2 years later we were married and are almost at our 27th anniversary.
10. Good job, Neil
Our first date was a Neil Young concert, during ‘Heart of Gold’ he looked in my eyes and I felt something that I’ve never felt before, even to this day. We only dated for 4 months before getting married, but I’d do it all again the same way. It’s been hard, amazing, frustrating and painful but also worth every second just to be with him. We’ve been married for 6 years.
11. The Boss
She was my boss at a local grocery shop it was love at aisle one – she came to me and yelled about something stupid – and I knew that was the one who will yell at me until i die.
12. Plants
A few weeks into dating, we were walking home from a bar downtown. We saw that some idiot had ripped a plant out of a planter outside the front door of a restaurant. We were tired and far from home, but he stopped to repot the plant and try to scoop most of the dirt back in. “Why would someone do that to this poor plant?” he said.
Right then I realized. I want this one. I want him.
To his best ability, he will try leave the world in a better state than how it was when he entered it. And he gives a shit about things that are weaker than himself. That counts for a lot in my book.
13. Pizza, Ice Cream, and Flowers
We had been dating for close to a year. I was feeling confident and some of our mutual friends were throwing a party. She didn’t want to go and wanted to hang out with me. I ditched her and went to the party anyways. I met a girl there and she flirted really hard with me but I just felt so much guilt. I ended up leaving the party and bringing my girlfriend pizza, ice cream and flowers. She answered the door crying. We had a fight and I stood up to walk out the door and never return.
But I didn’t. I turned around and we had an amazing embrace. We stayed up all night cuddling and eating junk food and watching movies. It was then I knew I could never leave her, she was the only person I’d ever want again.
14. Puke
Not married, or even engaged, but I knew I would be with my SO forever about two months into dating. We had gone away on vacation for a weekend for the first time, and on the first night away I ended up getting pretty sick.
He held my hair while I puked, went out in the middle of the night to find a store that was open so he could get me ginger ale (the hotel vending machine didn’t have any) and just took care of me and at that moment I knew he would take care of me for the rest of my life.
That was 2 years ago and we are currently in the process of buying a house so even though we’re not married, I plan spending my life with him.
15. “I miss you already.”
Our first date. In our case, it was a long-distance relationship that I didn’t want to call official until we met each other. So he drove up here, and we saw each other for three perfect days, and said a very painful goodbye. Then the jerk drove back to my house before leaving town to say goodbye again, making me cry more, in response to my text “I miss you already.” I knew he was a keeper.
We’ve survived getting an apartment together, getting a rabbit together, his surgery and recovery on his leg, job loss, buying a house together, hundreds of arguments over bills and money, a one week vacation in Florida (Disney) with his huge family all staying in one resort room, and we’ve recently just gotten a puppy. As tough as times have gotten I don’t think there is anyone else I’d rather get through them with.