10. Why hide it?
He spent a ton of money on Boston Bruins tickets this year. Whenever he got tickets to a game, he claimed he got them for free through work but I know he paid for them. I don’t really mind since he can spend his money how he wants, but it’s funny to me that he thinks I wouldn’t realize he’s spending a few hundred bucks every time he goes to a game.
Her ex is in town and she is secretly meeting him behind my back.
I know this because her location is always shared with me due to her habit of forgetting where her phone is.
12. Love hurts
My girlfriend moved out a couple months ago because I threw her (then) 22-year-old son out for doing drug deals in front of my house, doing drugs inside, and stealing from us. I just found out that she was having him do crack runs for her too. I know I should leave her but I worry about what might happen to her if I do.
13. Quite the secret
She says she doesn’t want children.
I know that she actually does want children, and that she’s not capable of having them, due to stumbling upon some medical records.
14. That is a tough one
He has been hiding that he’s autistic from me for ten years.
He had a bad experience with therapy and because of that, he thinks hiding his autism is the most important thing. Except that’s like trying to hide an elephant in a bathroom. So it’s always a weird charade of me pretending he’s not autistic while busting my butt to gently handle that.
I have no idea how to talk to him about it. I know he has a formal diagnosis. He was so traumatized from institutional medical abuse in the name of therapy that even mentioning it or acknowledging it can cause him to have a meltdown. He thinks if I knew, I wouldn’t love him anymore, but I’ve known for YEARS and I still love him.
I like him just how he is, I just want things to be easier and less scary for him, and I don’t know how to help most of the time because he won’t admit the problem.
At night, once I go to bed, he binge-watches Gossip Girl. He thinks I dont know, and Im perfectly happy to let him go on thinking that.
16. I’d keep that one to yourself for life
I found out my fianc was wanting to ask me to marry him but wanted to get a super expensive ring for me so it was taking time to save up. I don’t give a crap about that type of thing. I’d marry him without a ring. So I went to his mom and told her what I knew and she told me we should go look at rings together so maybe I could pick something less expensive and she could talk him into it. I know, I’m sneaky.
Anyway, I found an incredible ring that was normally $500 but on sale for $100. I bought the ring and she called him and told him what she did. He was so happy! He asked me to marry him on Christmas Eve and it was by far one of the best days of my life. He has no clue that I was involved in the purchase. So he’s keeping the secret that he doesn’t know that I know.
17. Uh oh.
I found out she had a credit card she had charged $2200 to. I confronted her for hiding it, and she admitted it and paid it off. (That’s the stupid part, we had the money in the bank.) Her brother is in prison and he manipulates her into sending him money. She agreed not to do that anymore.
The other day, I drove her car and there was an invoice stuck down between the console and parking brake lever. She has another credit card. I opened it and discovered she owes $1800 on that one. She doesn’t know that I know. Yet.
18. It’s not worth it
When I was 23, the girl I was dating went out with a friend to “get some food.”
Instead, they had sex. He told me the next morning, but she didn’t say a word. She actually slept in my bed that night. I didn’t end it right away, and that hung over our relationship FOR NINE YEARS.
If you are young and prone to co-dependency please take this to heart. If something goes wrong in your relationship dont ignore it. Don’t wait for someone elses poison to soak into your soul. Its not worth it.
18 months after finally breaking up with her, I met my future wife.
19. That might be a good thing to talk about
He’s bisexual. It’s okay. I am too.